6 things I’m doing to hit the reset button in 2024

6 things I’m doing to hit the reset button in 2024

1. Dry Winter!

I try to do Dry January every year, but last year I extended it to mid March and discovered that I was able to completely skip over my usual Seasonal Affective Disorder. I’d like this to be become my new annual tradition. 

Bonus that even moderate alcohol use causes brain damage, and the only way to reverse it is through 2-6 months of total sobriety (source: Huberman Lab podcast).

2. Getting back into daily meditation.

I use Headspace but whatever you’ll stick with is good. This is the first time meditation has felt easy for me. I’m only doing 5 minutes a day to start and will work my way up. Walking meditation counts!

3. Doing something creative every day.

Working on a friendship bracelet, making alcohol-ink art, posting something on Instagram—even the smallest creative tasks count. The other night I made a lanyard while watching The Mentalist.

4. Regular exercise.

I injured myself six weeks ago and am just getting back into my daily workout classes. When I don’t feel up to a class, I take a walk outside

5. Keeping up with my journals.

I use one for daily affirmation writing + general thoughts and reflection (a Muji notebook that costs like $3.50; have used and replaced this for years) and another for goal setting (the Lavendaire Artist of Life Workbook—this is the third year I’ve bought this)

6. Making plans with friends outside of the people I see regularly.

This usually takes a lot of energy for me, but I find that when I’m not drinking alcohol my life feels slower and quieter and therefore more restful, so I have more social energy for people outside of my inner circle.

4 sustainable rituals I’ve incorporated into my week

4 sustainable rituals I’ve incorporated into my week

Real talk: I am very bad at being consistent. I can commit to doing something daily for, like, a week before I inevitably miss a day and never pick it back up. (The lone exception is the New York Times Crossword; my streak is 525 as of this writing.) But recently, I’ve been putting more of an effort into developing little rituals that make my life feel more luxurious, which I’m finding is much easier than developing habits like, “Wake up at 6:30 every day.” Here they are:

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How to quit

How to quit

I haven’t signed into my Twitter account since June 4. “I need to be on Twitter” is one of the stories I’m testing out during my #40StoriesProject, a yearlong attempt to learn which of the things I’m telling myself are outdated. The plan for this particular story was to stay off Twitter for three months, but having hit that milestone a few days ago, I don’t see myself going back. I was better informed when I was doomscrolling every day, but about what? If I want to know what’s happening in the world, I get the important stories elsewhere—newspapers, texts from friends, even Instagram. I don’t miss being extremely online, and my reduced exposure to, well, everything has freed up a lot of space and energy, which I’m putting toward personal projects after a lengthy creative drought during the pandemic. Even the alleged value of Twitter for someone interested in a writing career seems largely negated by how bad being on Twitter makes me feel about writers and writing.

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How to get out of your own way and do the work

How to get out of your own way and do the work

I’ve mentioned before that I’m three months into a yearlong creativity course: the Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle with Tiffany Han. Our group discussion the other day turned to how to push past self-created drama to actually do the work. I shared some thoughts in our private group on Mighty Networks, but wanted to share them here as well. Here are three ways to shake off doubt, fear, anxiety, whatever to get your work done:

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Spiritual band-aids vs. sustainable change

Spiritual band-aids vs. sustainable change

Taffy Brodesser-Akner’s recent New York Times article on Gwyneth Paltrow and Goop ends with Brodesser-Akner being stuck on a bus, desperately having to pee. This incident, fortunately resolved without catastrophe, nonetheless leaves the author unable to regain the feeling of zen she’d accessed just a few hours earlier at the In Goop Health wellness summit, described earlier in the piece: Continue reading “Spiritual band-aids vs. sustainable change”

How to stop wasting food

How to stop wasting food

While everyone loves SMART goals, it occurred to me a couple of months ago that vague goals can also work — if they’re tied to values. It also occurred to me I really wanted to stop wasting food. When 49 million Americans are struggling to put food on the table, I really don’t want to throw food away because I never got around to eating it. Continue reading “How to stop wasting food”